Compliments aren't just for fun! 

Compliments aren't just nice words to hear. They are real confidence boosters and pillars of well-being.

Studies by Boothby and Bohns (2021) have shown that we tend to underestimate the positive effects of a compliment (the well-being brought to others is reflected in our own well-being) and overestimate the negative effects (upsetting the other person). Some people even feel anxious about giving or receiving a compliment. However, despite this anxiety about compliments, they are directly linked to well-being. You feel better after giving or receiving a compliment!

💡Tip of the day: Did you know that it takes an average of 5 compliments to offset the impact of a single negative review?

Valuable Tips for Complimenting with Heart : 

• • Prefer a specific compliment: "Your cake is perfectly baked, and the flavors match perfectly" rather than "Your cake is good".
  • Emphasize the person and their approach: "I like the technique you used and the colors you chose" instead of "Your drawing is beautiful".
  • Express your feelings: "I'd love to go to the funfair with you" rather than "The funfair's great".

How do you turn a flaw into a quality?

And last but not least, we propose to learn together how to transform a defect into a quality. This is a technique inspired by cognitive-behavioral therapies. This technique is very useful for complimenting others, but also for learning to be more indulgent and change the way you look at yourself.

So, whether your kid is hot-tempered, pretentious, clumsy, shy or slow, think carefully about the quality behind the flaw... 

We're here to support you in this wonderful educational adventure!

The Soft Kids team 🌈