School guidance and Parcoursup: 5 keys to reducing stress for teens and parents

Every year, the school orientation period and the Parcoursup platform are a source of stress for thousands of families. Between choosing a course, managing deadlines and uncertainty, teenagers and their parents often find themselves overwhelmed. Yet it's possible to turn this stage into an opportunity for learning and dialogue, rather than an ordeal. Here are 5 keys to reducing the stress associated with school orientation and Parcoursup.

1. Helping your teen get to know himself better

     Identify your strengths and interests

School guidance begins with personal reflection. Encourage your teenagers to ask themselves questions about what motivates them and what they feel competent in. Here are some ideas to get you started:

• • What are your favorite hobbies or activities?
  • What subjects or school projects gives him pleasure?
  • What values or goals are important to him?

Guidance tests available in high schools or online can also provide useful hints. But beware: they are only a starting point and should not dictate your choices.

     Encouraging proactive exploration

Suggest they explore several sectors through :

• • Observation internships (in 3rd grade or during the vacations).
  • Testimonials: Invite friends and family to talk about their jobs.
  • Open days: Visiting schools or universities gives you an idea of what to expect.

2. Demystify Parcoursup to reduce anxiety

Understanding how the platform works

Parcoursup is often perceived as complex, which reinforces anxiety. Take the time to :

Read the official resources: The Parcoursup website offers clear guides to the key stages.

Explain the stages: registration, formulating wishes, response phases... Understanding these stages reduces fears linked to the unknown.

     Support without taking over

Parents play a crucial role, but it's important not to take control of the process. Help your teen to :

• • Write a cover letter highlighting your experience.
  • Meet deadlines and follow up on applications.
  • Make independent choices, with your support.

3. Promoting alternative routes

     Relaxing non-academic choices

Not all students thrive in traditional streams. Promote alternative career paths, such as :

• • Vocational training, often linked to the needs of the job market.
  • gap years or experience abroad to develop cross-disciplinary skills.
  • Long-term apprenticeships or internships, ideal for young people looking for a quick start in the world of work.

   A reminder that there is no "right" or "wrong" way to go

The pressure to choose "the right course" is often paralyzing.
Show your child that career changes are possible, and that they are part of many successful career paths.

4. Managing emotions linked to uncertainty

     Creating a space for non-judgmental dialogue

Teens can feel a lot of pressure about the future. As a parent, you can offer them a sympathetic ear, without minimizing their fears. Some open-ended questions to start the discussion:

"What's on your mind most right now?"

"Is there a stage you find particularly difficult?"

     Encourage breaks and moments of relaxation 

Orientation doesn't have to take up all the space. Offer activities to relieve the pressure: sports, creative hobbies, family outings...

A light-hearted getaway from discussions about school choices.

5. Trust and let go

     Encouraging teen independence

Even if the desire to help is natural, it's important to let your teenager make his or her own decisions. This will help them to take responsibility and develop self-confidence.

     Remember that nothing is set in stone

Don't worry (and don't worry your child): a career path is not set in stone. Many professionals find their way after several experiences. This process is normal and part of learning.

To conclude: a phase of dialogue and construction

School orientation and Parcoursup are crucial stages, but they don't have to be sources of insurmountable stress. With a little dialogue, the right organization and a healthy dose of kindness, you can help your teenager through this period of transition while strengthening your family ties.

The Soft Kids team 🌈